This is not my post, but I found it from Khailee Ng (Managing Partner, 500 Startups). It is so inspiring and I want to keep it here.
Again, it is not my post. But hope you find it inspiring too 🙂
Original link – https://goo.gl/RBAiQU
‘Extreme’ Personal Transformation: My 2016 Year in Review
by Khailee Ng, on December 30th, 2016.
“Mid-life crisis, Khailee?” My friends had many questions. Some thought my changes were a bit extreme. But I’ve never felt better about making them. This post may be a bit too personal, but I want to share it with you, in case you are thinking about making some changes in your life. Something in here may help you with your “mid-life renaissance”.
March: Started on a ‘shopping detox’ only buying necessities. Then kept it that way.
May: Packed up one suitcase, gave away 80% of my wardrobe, rented out my apartment (am currently trying to sell it) and officially have no home. Living out of a minimalist wardrobe in different countries.
June: Evolved from a fish-only diet, to vegetarian, then to vegan. And kept it that way. This means no meat, egg, milk, honey, cream, any animal products… while maintaining a strong body.
July: Got rid of my ‘signature look’ (had longer hair for 18 years, and glasses for 25 years), that really was just an ego-feeder for me.
All year: Zero consumption of adult material and onanism all year. Kept it that way.
I went to war with habits built over 31 years. Food, shopping, validation-seeking, and distractions from things which really mattered:
2 – Relationships
I feel closer to my parents than I have ever felt in my entire adult life.
I spent the most time with my best friend compared to previous years in my adult life.
Currently developing a deeply ‘conscious’ and loving romantic relationship with an amazing woman that I admire.
My relationship with myself is way healthier. Growing self-love, self-acceptance and self-awareness.
Underneath all these changes were a fundamental transformation of my mindset.
3 – Mindset
I lived my early adulthood feeling like I had no limits, that anything was possible. I believed that I was capable of getting everything I dreamt of. Sounds like a pretty positive mindset, right? It was. It helped me build and sell 2 companies before 30 and build my startup investment practice.
However, something was missing.
By mid 2015, I was physically at an all-time low. Mentally, I was plagued with internal conflict and dissatisfaction. I kept comparing myself to Mark Zuckerberg and felt shitty about my own achievements. I didn’t feel I had ‘enough’. I was at my most distant from friends and family. A long-term relationship came to an end. I doubled down on work, partying, and ‘living it up’. I started writing out even bigger goals for myself. Taking on more new projects, more things, more experiences…
Something was still missing.
I still felt like I did not have enough.
What is ‘enough’? How much clothes is enough? What level of nett worth is enough? How much external attention and validation is enough? How many new experiences in life is enough?
The more I got in life, the more I wanted. This cycle fed into itself. It was endless. This cycle feeds modern consumerism, and pushes people to exploit other people, other species, and our own earth.
2016 was my big F.U. to this cycle.
I drew the line of what ‘enough’ meant to me. If I could give myself enough love and validation, I would be less inclined to seek for it externally. I wouldn’t need the products, experiences and desires peddled to me. I would invest less time in ego-stroking activities. I would grow more contentment, and I wouldn’t need more…
All this freed up time, resources and ambition that could instead be used to serve themes and people that I cared about. This impacted my work in ways I didn’t expect.
4 – Work
For once, I started to say no to new projects. I had large amounts of capital placed in front of me to take on exciting new endeavors, but I said no. I stayed focused on making good on my core commitments.
By the end of 2016, I achieved more in my investment career that I had in previous years. Our portfolio grew to 120 companies, many now Southeast Asia’s most prominent ones. Aside from Grab, 47 of them raised more than USD $300 million, and they continue to grow. I built a solid team that I fully trust, and we’re now in our second fund.
I wake up every day working with exceptional individuals (both on my team, and the entrepreneurs I meet and invest in). They inspire me to further serve more entrepreneurs as they build game-changing companies in every part of the world.
My work with 500 Startups grew. And so did my sense of purpose.
5 – Purpose
Last week, I chose some words which would describe the overarching theme of why I do what I do: I help people realize their creative ability, with a focus on entrepreneurs. On my social media profiles I use the call-to-arms, “Weapons of mass creation for all!” Maybe I’ll make a t-shirt out of this.
2017, Bring it on
So there you have it, 2016! I’m back to work – ongoing work in progress. To continue well into 2017 and beyond. To serve the people and issues I care about. For this, I will have plenty more habits to dismantle and mind shifts to make. I’m so lucky I’m supported by so many sweet people (list below) in the process.
As for you, what is the most ‘extreme’ change you want to see in your life? What makes you want to transform? Comment below, I’d love to know. All this comes together to be your unique story. My story is just one story of many. It can happen for anyone, it can happen faster than you think, and it can very well happen for you in 2017.
Appendix : Some people who played a notable role in my 2016. In no particular order.
My 500 Durians II partner Vishal Harnal for so, so much personal and professional support
Jenny Maggard for giving me such a practical and powerful paradigm for fitness for life